This is my experience, my life.
As a girl growing up in a patriarchal society, you learn a lot of things. Namely, that you have to always be on guard because the world is not safe for you. As a kid my parents never let me go out with friends or have sleep overs at their houses because they thought there was the possibility of their fathers, brothers, or relatives being there and “doing something to me”. Code for: they thought I would get raped. I remember overhearing my dad tell my mom about a horrific dream he had in which I (his only daughter) got brutally raped, his worst fear had manifested itself into a dream. I would cry and protest this because I still hadn’t absorbed The Fear. It was a much more innocent time for me. Continue reading
You know what I hate? Double fucking standards. I’ll give you a prime example. I was in the quiet zone in the library a few weeks ago when a good friend of mine called me. I took a few minutes to chat with him in my best inside voice, trying to be as respectful as I could. Within fifteen minutes a puffy faced white boy came up to me and said in an angry hiss “hey could you be quiet. I’m trying to study and this is the quiet zone of the library. You need to leave if you can’t follow the rules!” Embarrassed and angry, I told my friend that I would talk to him later and resumed my quiet study. I was upset, but what could I do? I was in the quiet zone and I guess I had to admit he was right…
Now, I am in the library again. Same floor, same quiet zone. With the same guy sitting right behind me. The only difference is, I’m not the one being disruptive this time. Two black guys on the other row are being loud as fuck and talking about Kim Kardashian’s ass for the past half hour. But has anyone said anything about it? Nope. The guy behind me is quiet as a mouse. Continue reading
There is a saying that a chain is only as strong as its weakest link, and this is fitting to describe Feminism because they work to make the weakest links strong so that the whole movement can be strong. Continue reading